A common concern of recovering nice guy's, is when can I make her my girlfriend? While there is no perfect time frame to make her your girlfriend, there are some definite rules that you want to follow as to when not to make her your girlfriend. The earliest you should even consider it is 6 months although after 2 or 3 months it is okay to stop seeing other women as long as she doesn't know she is the only one you are seeing. Too many times a guy after less than 10 interactions with a woman is ready to settle down and make her his lady. The first 90 days of seeing a woman is when the newness and exploration of it is still exciting, days 91-180 is when you are going to see the real woman and how she acts when all of the masks and gloves come off. If a woman asks you; where you think this relationship is going, wait at least another month before making her your girlfriend if it has been more than 6 months and that is where you want the relationship to head. However, if a woman at any point gives you an ultimatum wait 6 months from the day she gives you to make up your mind. The reason you need to wait so long is to not only make sure that you have control of the relationship, but, to make sure that you keep it as well. Asking a girl or agreeing to be her girl (not a mistake) too soon and you lose control of the relationship. If you lose control of the relationship it is no longer about what you want but what she wants. 9 out of 10 times your wants are not going to be her wants. The best thing you can do is get your inner game so tight that your reality is what you want it to be and it doesn't matter what you want it to be and it doesn't matter what anybody else think or does. |
